One at a Time - A Busy Mom's Life

Dear kiddos,

Valentines day for both of you right now is about having a class party and giving and receiving sweet treats and Valentine cards from classmates. It's all good, everything is about fun and friends. There will come a time though where it is going to be about secret crushes, first loves, boyfriends and girlfriends. You will feel the rush of the first kiss, the butterflies in your tummy when they smile at you and many more wonderful things that comes with being in love.

Along with being in love is the reality that you may get hurt in the process. It is not an easy thing to get through. No one likes to be rejected, more so by the person you love the most. I wish I can tell you that it's not going to hurt but I can't. Being in love means you're opening yourself up for a heartache but that does not mean you shouldn't love someone. It's a part of life. You're going to feel as if the whole world has crumbled around you and it is not easy. It's at these tough times that you will learn how resilient one's heart is. No matter if your heart is broken once or many times, it will find a way to love again. Do not lose hope. It may seem that you won't and cannot love again but I learned that with the right person, it will happen.

I met your dad five months after I just had my heart broken into a million pieces. I thought that life as I know it ended. I was a wreck and was just going through the motions of life. Work, home, work, repeat. I wanted to give up and was always crying myself to sleep. After a month of doing that, I got tired. I can't play this part anymore, I am not that kind of person. I remembered stopping at a church in Mountain View, CA on my lunch break. Always remember the power of prayer. I prayed hard. I asked God to guide me to find the right person. I started dating again until I met your dad. He showed me that with the right person, magic can and will happen.

Do not settle for anything less. With the right person, everything will fall into place. This person will treat you right. Do not stay in a love-hate relationship. A good relationship is all positive. Respect your partner. Compromise. You won't be right everytime, learn to accept it. Leave your pride out the door, it has no place in a loving relationship. Do not try to change your partner, love them for who they are. Choose a partner that shares your belief in God, this is very important. Always remember why you fell in love with your partner. Whenever you are at your wits end, ask mom. I will always be here at your side.

I could go on and on but will just share that when the right time comes. I'm so lucky to have both of you in my life. I waited a long time to have you both and I couldn't be happier. I may not be the perfect mom but I'm always trying my best. I will close this letter with the phrase I use the most "I will always love you NO MATTER WHAT."